By Lucy Dunn
8 November 2013
You may be thinking, is this a “politically incorrect” topic?" No, I am actually not going to talk about what you guys have in mind. I am certainly not advocating love affairs in the office, especially with your boss!
- Think about this scenario (and the parallels with a “love affair”)
- You go for an interview at a company = First date
- If all goes well, then you get invited for more in-depth conversations as well as meeting more people at the company = More dating and getting to know the relatives
- When all goes splendidly well, they give you a job offer = Marriage proposal
- Now you have got the job you wanted, you start really getting acquainted with your internal and external counterparts you will work with on the daily basis = Honey moon
- To do well, not only do you have to do your part but you also need support from your boss, and you find out that philosophy is a lot more important than you thought when the natural conflicts come up = Reality starting to sink in
Now, excluding the economic or company factors, there are only two possible outcomes:
1. Presumably you have settled in, you work well with colleagues, you are delivering results and getting good appraisals from the boss. Your performance is giving your boss “face” because he looks smart for hiring you. You are liking the “status quo”, you would most probably stay on and work for some years before looking for another job again = You get to know each other, you work hard on the relationship, each makes compromise sometimes, and both parties are able to enjoy the marriage life
2. Unfortunately, if you don’t get on with the boss, there may be a different styles of work, all the unstated expectations on you and your work come up. Which means you are dragging your feet going to work and you may start looking for external job opportunities = Not satisfied with your marriage, you think about looking. One day, you demand a divorce from your partner and start the whole dating game all over again
With the above analogy, I think it is important to look at situations and bosses with some of the same criteria you would looking for that new “love affair.” This will help you build a more satisfying and stronger career. Showing that you stay long enough to justify the investment a company is looking to make when they look at hiring you, shows wisdom of choice, commitment, adaptability, persistence, willingness to put in effort in your career. As you all know, these are some of the most sought-after qualities for a hiring manager. CHEMISTRY can make us overlook the important factors that indicate our compatibility with our new boss, co-workers; but as due diligence, also make a list and ask questions about the things that work or don’t work for you.
Show your prospective/current boss who you really are because they will find out soon enough, so why not find a boss that is going to “love what you bring to the party.”